Every Christian has been given spiritual gifts by the Holy Spirit. These gifts are not for the individual but for the body. It is vital that you be a member of a local church. Find a Bible-teaching church near you using these directories:
9 Marks directory
I’ll Be Honest directory
Master’s Seminary directory
It would be beneficial to ask if they can tell you about a recent time they practiced church discipline because a Biblical church will follow Matthew 18:15-20. If they do not practice church discipline, then there are likely other parts of Scripture they are putting aside as well. Many families will move in order to meet their physical and social needs. How much more so should a family move in order to meet their spiritual needs and be obedient to Hebrews 13:17?
“Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you.”
Two implications of this verse are 1) that you know who your leaders (elders) are and, 2) that they know they are accountable for you. This verse, and the passage from Matthew seen above, can only be fulfilled through church membership.